The Truth About Counter Offers: Should You Stay or Go?
You have accepted a new role, handed in your resignation, and then your manager asks to talk. Suddenly there is a better salary, a promised promotion or a change to your roster. It feels flattering, and it can feel like proof you were valued all along. But before you say yes, it is worth asking a harder question: why did it take a resignation to get this response?
Why employers make counter offers
Losing a skilled health professional is costly and disruptive. Recruitment takes time, and teams are often stretched. A counter offer can be a genuine attempt to keep someone valued, but it can also be a short-term fix to avoid a gap. Understanding the motive helps you judge whether the underlying issues will really change.
Remember why you started looking
Most people do not leave for money alone. Common reasons include limited development, workload, a lack of recognition, culture or a poor relationship with leadership. A pay rise does not fix any of these. Write down your top three reasons for leaving before the conversation. If a counter offer does not address them, the same frustrations are likely to return within months.
Consider the long-term picture
Staying after resigning can change how you are viewed. Some managers may question your loyalty or hesitate to invest in your growth. Others handle it well. Think about your relationships, your future opportunities and whether the commitments in the counter offer are in writing. Also consider the new employer, who has chosen you, planned around you and may be disappointed. In a small sector like New Zealand health, reputation matters.
When staying can make sense
There are times when a counter offer is the right call. If the issue was genuinely a single, fixable concern, and your employer has a credible plan to address it, staying can work well. The key is to be honest about whether the change is real and lasting.
Counter offer decision checklist
- Does the offer fix the real reason I wanted to leave?
- Is it confirmed in writing?
- Would I have been offered this without resigning?
- How excited am I about the new role?
- What will my relationship with my manager look like in six months?
Talk it through with someone you trust, including your recruiter, who can offer an objective view. Whatever you choose, be professional, be grateful and keep the door open. Your decision should be about where you will do your best work and build the career you want, not about a moment of flattery.
Thinking about your next permanent health career move in New Zealand? Speak to the RWR Health team at www.rwrhealth.co.nz.






